August 12, 2022 New: A traceable male O'Kelley descendant of Benjamin O'Kelley has tested and his DNA results indicate the common family tree recorded in books by Aletha Jane Macon, Harold O'Kelley, and J Fred O'Kelly that lists Thomas, Charles, and Benjamin as brothers isn't valid. The 111 marker test of descendents of Benjamin, Thomas and Charles indicate that these four brothers were actually cousins of different degrees, the results indicate that Benjamin is likely a 4 or 5 cousin to my 4th Great Grandfather Charles and perhaps a 6 or 7th cousin to Thomas. DNA also suggests that Charles and Thomas were likely 1st or 2nd cousins and may have descended from Thomas and Hororna who were born in Ireland in 1665 and came to America in 1693 with five children and believed to have settled with the Hugenots in Manikan Town in Henrico Co Virginia which is today Goochland Co VA.
I find it very understandable that this mistake could occur after all we find the names of Thomas, Charles, and Benjamin repeated over and over in both family lines giving reason to think they shared parents but this was extremely common in Irish families, it is how the Mac and O surname were invented, because they Irish reused both Christian and surnames so much in the same physical location their names actually became very long names that often included both Mac and O were used to help people know who was the son of whom and who was the brother of whom.
What can be relied upon as fact is Benjamin has a Revolution War Pension Application in our national archives where he claims he was born in King and Queen County Virginia, a grandson of Charles wrote in his Bible that Charles was born in VA about 1760 and I know of no written documents to establish when and where Thomas O'Kelley was born. It is doubtful that Charles and Thomas were also born in King and Queen Co. Their parents likely lived elsewhere thus their children were born elsewhere.
Written before August 12, 2022 - So is Benjamin Franklin O'Kelley the son of James O'Kelley and Anna Dean thus the uncle of Charles Dean O'Kelley or is he the son of William O'Kelley and Elizabeth Dean and the brother of Charles Dean O'Kelley. There are so many Benjamin Franklin O'Kelleys that it seem impossible to know for certain but because of the Dr Thomas K O'Kelley Pedigree and that Benjamin lived most of this life in North Carolina and not in Virginia and Georgia where Charles Dean O'Kelley lived, I tend to believe that Benjamin was Charles Dean O'Kelley's uncle. A 111 Marker DNA test of an O'Kelley male that can be traced to Benjamin would solve this puzzle.
To my knowledge no document has ever been found bearing the signature of Benjamin, he made his mark X as his signature but that doesn't mean he didn't have the ability to read or write his name, he was very elderly when he completed his pension and making a mark was acceptable. Benjamin in his pension application states he was born in 1761 in King and Queen Co VA. His pension makes no mention of service with his older brother Charles in 1776 and 1777 in the 10th Company of the 8th Virginia but I don't think Charles served contrary to what many believe about our early family I find no burning patriots, they served only the time required by law and no more, my grandfather Charles hired John Farrar the second cousin to Thomas Jefferson to served in his place in the Mecklenburg Co Va Militia in 1779. Harold Ernst O'Kelley uses the pension application in his 1985 book to place our family to King and Queen Co and on into Caroline Co VA and to a William Kelley a merchant living there and I think this might be likely, that he was the brother of our ancestor James. What we know from the American Revolutionary War Pension application of Benjamin born in 1761 is it lists him as Kelly and states he was born in 1761 in King and Queen Co Va and he served twice in the North Caroline Militia, both times he was drafted, about 12 to 18 months apart and both times he served for 3 months. He severed in Captain Parrish's Company under the Command of Col Farmer in the NC Regiment. On his second draft he served in a Col Taylor's NC Reg again in Captain Parrish's company. You can view the hand written documents here. He gives the year he was born on the bottom of page 5 and continued on the top of page 6 as 1761. The 1850 US Buncombe Co North Carolina appears to support that the Benjamin of the pension application was born in Virginia about 1761. Benjamin was elderly and didn't have a photo ID so he might have been guessing at the year he was born.
Author and attorney Ronald Lansings wrote a 2005 book about Nimrod, one of Benjamin's sons and he reprints data he gathered from an 1880 newspapers where they reportedly claimed Nimrod was born about 1780 or at least five years before Benjamin's descendants believe Benjamin and Mary were married. I am not sure why this could not have been possible certainly Benjamin and Mary could have lived as husband and wife well before their marriage record 1784, many did as the legal marriage authority, the Bishops of the Church of England had mostly all fled back to England so many had to seek common law marriage so Nimrod's birth year isn't impossible. A newspaper article written in 1886 about Nimrod made a claim that he was born in Ireland and educated to become a priest and certainly that too could be possible, the ships did run in both directions and it was a common practice for the Gentry Irish to send their children away to be educated.
Alethea Jane Macon makes a claim that Benjamin purchased 200 acres of land in the lower district of Mecklenburg Co VA in 1796 which he sold in 1803 to Jacob Shelar. I think it reasonable to believe this is Benjamin of our family who was born in 1757/78.
Benjamin claimed in a pension application that he was born in King and Queen in 1761 died in 1850 in Buncombe Co, NC. He was very elderly and in poor health at the time and his memory very confused. He appeared in the census in 1850 in Buncombe, North Carolina.19
Benjamin Kelley and Mary Williams were married November 22, 1784 in Warren Co NC. Mary Williams father Nimrod Williams posted the marriage bond.
Benjamin O'Kelley and Mary Williams had the following children: